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Do you need support, skills, and tools to help you through a difficult time in your relationship? Are you living in the danger zone of high conflict …or deadly silence? Have you just found out about an affair?  Do you feel like you’re never a good enough parent? Maybe, sadly, you’ve never felt good about yourself.

We can help.

We’re a mother daughter practice specializing in

  • Affairs
  • Conflict
  • Parenting
  • Self Esteem
  • Communication Issues
  • Adult Children of Alcoholics

We are both licensed by the state of NJ to practice psychotherapy. Our personal qualifications include a genuine desire to help, an ability to quickly connect, and a commitment to your healing. Clients tell us that our  successful mother daughter practice provides them with hope for their own families.

We can help.

We’re both Certified Imago Therapists, with extensive, comprehensive training in relationships.  We can give you new, intense communication skills to help you and your loved ones grow through and past :

  • The trauma of the affair
  • The inevitable changes and stages of life
  • Conflict with in-laws and stepfamilies

Would you like to re-connect and actually feel the joy of beautifully renewed relationships with your partner, your family, your friends and yourself?

We can help.

Give us a call at 973-236-0020.

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Alexandra Pintauro Urgola, MA, LPC, NCC
Director, Licensed Professional Counselor

Certified Imago Relationship Therapist
EMDR Level II Therapist
Specialist in Adoption Issues
Certified Substance Awareness Counselor
Certified in Posttraumatic Stress Management

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Maggie Vlazny, MSW, LCSW
Psychotherapist

Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Certified Imago Relationship Therapist
EMDR Level II Therapist
Specializing in Baby Boomers, Stepfamilies, Anxiety

Commentary

When It’s Time to Have a Baby

How do you know when it’s time to have a baby?  As a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, I frequently hear that question from my couples. The answer is much simpler than you might expect. The answer to the question is… a question. (Don’t you just hate when therapists do that? Sorry. But this is so important.)

Are you ready to give  to another little human being? Giving and having are polar opposites, pretty much the same as giving and getting.

People who are mostly interested in having a baby are often  the ones who want a little replica of themselves to play with, like a new doll. A boy or girl with your lips and my eyes…that kind of thing. They’re excited about decorating a nursery,  buying those cute, I mean really cute baby clothes…that kind of thing. Names are fun too.

But the reality of it all  is that that’s  just the frosting on the cake. The CAKE is the desire to nurture another human being. To love  that little person unconditionally. To willingly go without sleep, forgo your own interests, clean up vomit and excrement, love whoever arrives into your life (male or female, beautiful or not, genius or not, healthy or disabled )…that kind of thing. The kind of thing every child deserves when he or she arrives into a family. The kind of thing that you would want for yourself. That you deserved and still deserve. (That will be another post.)

Do you want to give unconditionally to a baby, no matter the personal self sacrifice? Go for it! Do you have some reservations about the unconditional thing? Then wait..think about it.  Because the thing of it is, there’s no turning back once your imperfect child arrives. And since nobody is perfect, your child will feel your disappointment. Is that what you want?

See? The answer is easy.

©2014 Maggie Vlazny