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Do you need counselors who can provide support, skills, and tools to help you through a difficult time in your relationship? Are you living in the danger zone of high conflict …or deadly silence? Have you just found out about an affair?  Do you feel like you’re never a good enough parent? Maybe, sadly, you’ve never felt good about yourself.

We can help.

We are a mother daughter practice, counselors in Morris County, NJ.

  • Affairs
  • Conflict
  • Parenting
  • Self Esteem
  • Communication Issues
  • Adult Children of Alcoholics

We are both licensed by the state of NJ to practice psychotherapy. Our personal qualifications include a genuine desire to help, an ability to quickly connect, and a commitment to your healing. Clients tell us that our  successful mother daughter practice provides them with hope for their own families.

We can help.

We’re both Certified Imago Therapists, with extensive, comprehensive training in relationships.  We can give you new, intense communication skills to help you and your loved ones grow through and past :

  • The trauma of the affair
  • The inevitable changes and stages of life
  • Conflict with in-laws and stepfamilies

Would you like to re-connect and actually feel the joy of beautifully renewed relationships with your partner, your family, your friends and yourself?

We can help.

Give us a call at 973-236-0020.

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Alexandra Pintauro Urgola, MA, LPC, NCC
Director, Licensed Professional Counselor

Certified Imago Relationship Therapist
EMDR Level II Therapist
Specialist in Adoption Issues
Certified Substance Awareness Counselor
Certified in Posttraumatic Stress Management

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Maggie Vlazny, MSW, LCSW
Psychotherapist

Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Certified Stepfamily Counselor
Certified Imago Relationship Therapist
EMDR Level II Therapist
Specializing in anxiety and mood disorders

Commentary

Its Not About Who’s Right

I see this so much in my office – couples wanting to re-hash a week old argument and wanting me to judge who’s right. Detail by detail they correct each other, exactly who said what, who did what first, as if each admitted detail is a score toward the finish line. But nobody really gets anywhere because there are no winners in an argument between partners. If there’s a winner that means there’s a loser, which means the winner loses too. Losers don’t like winners very much. Relationships are not about opponents or gladiators. They’re about loving your lover. When you love you give the gifts of empathy and the benefit of the doubt. You understand that your partner is probably feeling hurt beneath the anger. You try to understand and ask for help in understanding because you want to make it better. When you are loved you receive the gifts of empathy and the benefit of the doubt. You feel understood and appreciate the empathy and efforts of your partner. The more you are given, the more you receive. The more you receive, the more you want to give. It becomes a lot easier than the win thing.

©Alexandra Urgola, LPC