Welcome to our mother-daughter practice!

We and our associates all have specialized training in marriage and family counseling. We help couples and family members to problem solve and communicate effectively and lovingly. This results in improved and happy relationships with your loved ones.

We also offer individual psychotherapy for anxiety, depression, phobias, and other personal issues.

We pride ourselves on offering hope, compassion and professional expertise in a warm and safe environment.

Warmly,

	Alexandra Pintauro Urgola, MA LPC NCC Director Licensed Professional Counselor National Certified Counselor Certfied Imago Relationship Therapist EMDR Level 2 Therapist Specialist in Adoption Issues Certified Substance Awareness Counselor Certified in Posttraumatic Stress Management About Me
	Maggie Vlazny, MSW, LCSW Editoral Director Psychoeducation Coordinator

Monthly Commentary

Its Not About Who's Right

I see this so much in my office - couples wanting to re-hash a week old argument and wanting me to judge who's right. Detail by detail they correct each other, exactly who said what, who did what first, as if each admitted detail is a score toward the finish line. But nobody really gets anywhere because there are no winners in an argument between partners. If there's a winner that means there's a loser, which means the winner loses too. Losers don't like winners very much. Relationships are not about opponents or gladiators. They're about loving your lover. When you love you give the gifts of empathy and the benefit of the doubt. You understand that your partner is probably feeling hurt beneath the anger. You try to understand and ask for help in understanding because you want to make it better. When you are loved you receive the gifts of empathy and the benefit of the doubt. You feel understood and appreciate the empathy and efforts of your partner. The more you are given, the more you receive. The more you receive, the more you want to give. It becomes a lot easier than the win thing.

©Alexandra Urgola, LPC